If you look at it in another way, it will actually make sense for Western Europe.
For example, if WE does not allow baltics to have "lead" role in the EU or NATO, what is keeping NATO together? Also, NATO and EU is one thing, WE is another; what I mean by this, while WE talk a lot about defending Ukraine, WE actually didn't commit any troops to it, neither did they go all in with their effort.
why is WE doing this? WE want to put on the face, that WE care about the baltics, but at the sametime, they want the baltics to be meatshields. If this war resulted in 30 million dead ukarians, and only 100k dead russians, that is 100k less russians for the WE to deal with. Either way, it is a win for WE, because they cost very little in finance, equitpment, manpower, and they get to stand the moral high ground.
It does reveal the deficiency in WE military, but it is preferable to discover the problem with dead ukrainans rather than dead french or germans.
The smartest way for Ukraine was actually make big noise, but never actually go into the war, becasue for Ukraine, it will just end up with bunch of dead ukrainians. if ukriaians politcal leaders actually care about their country, they should have fled and surrender. but reality, they use dead ukrainians to fatten their own wallet. when ukraine collapse, bunch of those "leaders" will flee with their corruption aid money, probably "ukarian goverment in exit" in UK.