Before, I loved the idea of reunification, but after talking with my Taiwanese friends, I recognize that China should just let Taiwan be. I hope China can become self-reliant on semiconductors as quick as possible. Taiwanese people hate China so much.
I have no idea what is in my friends mind, they are high educated with an engineer degree, but got shitty jobs in a cinema or metro station. They are thinking people from mailand are brainwashed, but it´s them.
When I’ve invited them to come to China to China with their own eyes, they rejected, they believe to get caught at the airport, because their Facebook is full with anti-China propaganda.
They don’t understand why I am trying to find a job in China, instead of Taiwan.
Why are they your friends? If I spoke to someone like that, it's 90% likely to end up in a fist fight. People who lack all self-respect and side with foreigners over blood relatives don't respond to your kindness because they believe that kindness is weakness and the strong will be a global bully like the US. You've been approaching it wrong, and thus pushing them away. People with that mentality only look for the strongest leg to hold onto; when they see the US economy, technology and military falter against China, that's what will win them over. If there is a conflict and they see the US crawl away with a bloody nose and broken jaw, then China will win them over.
Personally, don't invite them to anything. Tell them you are Chinese and you and your descendents are all dedicated to taking Taiwan island back, making China the strongest country in the world and you don't care how they or the US feels about it. Then let them see your strength; be better than them at work, be stronger at the gym be more accomplished at everything and always proud of yourself and your country. They will be attracted to this type of energy.
I've honestly never met an anti-China Taiwanese person before and I doubt it's because I've really never met one. It's because when I know they are around, I put out that energy that if they say anything bad about China, we will be having big big problems with each other. So they stay silent, they talk softly acknowledging things they like about China, or they just come out and tell me they think like me and support me. Never fear that conflict. I've literally went into a Taiwanese church (for the food, not religion), told everyone that I love China and will return to it, and had people clapping and telling me how well-raised I was for a Chinese person who grew up in the US.
Never let people who hate you win. When China was first unified, many locals hated being conquered... but now, milleniums later, their descendents get to be a part of the most powerful country in the world instead of some weak scattered mess like southeast Asia. In the end, it's about the land. That land belongs to China and the Chinese people. If they hate us, they can fuck off anywhere in the world; go drown in the ocean. But they don't get to squat our land. You don't let tenants who hate you keep your house; you don't give these fuckers a free island. Never reward bad behavior. Reunification or death, their call.