You think I'm only looking at the Chinese point of view?
Have you lived and traveled around South East Asia or WestPac?
From their perspective they don't particularly like the prospect of future Chinese hegemony, but neither do they particularly like the current US hegemon (Philippines/Japan excluded).
Remember that the US is an imperialistic warmongering hegemon that has been constantly invading countries in the name of freedom, yet leaving those same liberated countries in chaos and worse off than before.
If we look at Laos, Thailand and Cambodia - they've all accepted that they have to take into account Chinese interests first - and are pretty happy to be proto-client states.
The attitude in Singapore, Malaysia, Brunei and Myanmar is that China is too big to ignore, and certainly too big to overtly challenge because of the consequences, which is much like how the US is regarded. Singapore in particular is preparing for the day when China displaces the US in Asia and they are not shy about saying this publicly. As a small wealthy trading one-party city-state surrounded by much larger Muslim neighbours, they don't have the luxury of deluding themselves on the balance of power and what that means for their foreign policy.
Then we have Indonesia focused on internal economic growth and the challenges of keeping the archipelago nation/empire together. And remember that Australia (supported by the US) liberated East Timor in the name of freedom not so long ago. From their perspective, it is Australia and the US that is the biggest threat to their country - and it is Indonesia that dominates ASEAN and SE Asia.
Vietnam and Korea are the closest to China and therefore the most vulnerable in terms of military and economic disparity, as they are geographically isolated. So they face the prospect of Finlandisation or possibly Canadisation/Mexicanisation.
Remember that China is not going to go around conquering the populations of other countries, and the sovereignty disputes relate to a bunch of uninhabited islands. So what threat does China actually pose to the liberty and sovereignty of other nations?
My apology was for my own bad attitude, and the fact that my beautiful country has a quasi communist dictator at its helm, who has dissed each and everyone of our friends, and contributed to dismantling many of the stable govts of the mid-East. He has had a more destructive effect on the US military and Economy than any other factor in the last half century.
I'm not apologizing for the US Constitution, or the Govt of the People, for the People, and by the People, but sadly many of those who now vote, have no sense of the sacrifices made by true Patriots for their Liberation, and care little for the Liberties and Blessings paid for in the blood of the Saints?
That's why people continue to beat down the doors to get in??? rather than to get out??? LOL
and YES, I have lived in Japan!