This is indeed a problem specific to East Asian cultures.
The cultures of the Middle East tolerate Western hegemony and pay the necessary tribute to avoid being regime changed, but you can tell they don't like it. Not at all. The reason organizations like ISIS, the Taliban, and Al-Qaeda can survive is because Middle Eastern cultures are fundamentally sympathetic to their goals. The House of Saudi Arabia is itself rumored to be a sponsor. Deep down, they prefer their own culture over the West's, and yearn to return to a world in which the West is contained in its own corner of the world.
By contrast, smaller East Asian cultures, especially Japan and South Korea, don't just tolerate Western hegemony - they prefer it. In their minds, the choice is between Western hegemony and Chinese hegemony, and they'd much rather have the former because it'd be shameful and terrible to have what they perceive to be an "inferior" people like the Chinese lord it over them. This is, of course, because of decades, if not centuries, of brain washing in which they've been convinced that China <<< West. Being ruled by the white man is much better for prestige and face, qualities over which most East Asians obsess.
It will take a sea change in geopolitical dynamics before countries like Japan and South Korea can become reliable partners to China. Indeed, Japan may be loyal to the West all the way until the end, seeing itself as the regional extension of the "superior" Western system and therefore the only possible leader of East Asia - up to the moment it all collapses.
Defeating the West definitively is a prerequisite to either country having a change of heart. With Japan, it's probably not enough to do even that, because they'll continue to think they ought to be the leader of East Asia all the way until China crushes them in a major conflict.
