Your charge and questions equally apply to all the nations that wants to wage a war against China. You make it sound like countries that will be involved in such monumental task against a determined foe in China will not lament losing their own children even if they have bore more than 1 child. Losing sons are painful regardless of culture and country.I agree that Chinese citizens demand tough actions on Taiwan, but are these one-child families REALLY prepared to lose their children for national unification? Do they even understand the consequences of a great power war and be prepared to lose everything in order to achieve national unification? This is very different from getting high watching Wolf Warrior 2.
Worst of all Japan, Taiwan have smaller population than China and an even worst child production capacities. The same can be said to that of the U.S. especially when the white majority demographics an ethnic group that largely make up the U.S. military will become a minority race in 2050, and the war against China will hasten that process for them pretty f..ng quickly.
For every deficit you charge against China equally if not applies to the countries against her disproportionately. Only India maybe able to escape the demographics worry since they make babies like there's no worries.