Maybe the reason DF-41 are that size because they need to launch their payload with a high apogee to have the range they need to become ICBMs which means greater fuel to accelerate during the launch to reach that altitude.Well I'm not too concerned with the claimed accuracy of this test (How do they even know it missed the target by 22miles? did the pla guys painted a big bullseye in the desert for their benefit?). As you said, accuracy can be improved.
I'm more concerned about the economics of the strategy. If The missile needs more delta-V it will have to sacrifice payload mass, the question comes down to a trade off between whether you want more warheads or less but really difficult to intercept ones.
That's why I'm asking about the delta-V of DF-41 or similar ICBMs (roughly ballparts of course I'm not a spy lol...). Because I can then calculate the exact trade-off.
This is not my area of expertise but I'm thinking with a FOBS, you don't need that high apogee so you can use a smaller booster. But regardless you need the speed and fuel to reach LEO and maintain that orbit. Good question though. Someone else with more knowledge will answer for it sure.