This goes into a bit more detail:
There's more here in both English and Taiwanese Mandarin:
I've personally had quite a few East Asian women complain about the treatment they receive in their societies. The one that really surprised me was Chinese. She complained that her sexual market worth was close to worthless in China: late 20s, pretty hot in my opinion and from a upper middle class family.
That sexual market value of female in Chinese society was very perplexing to me in the past. It seems like a reverse of what is intuitive and certainly what is the case in the west. Plenty of otherwise intelligent, reasonably attractive, and overall "decent" females simply finding no luck in dating. Partly due to elevated standards compared to the past, and partly due to cultural differences in age gap acceptability, overall different sets of relationship expectations compared to western ones. The reverse side of this is that the lower end of the spectrum for men (in terms of socially normalised criteria for value) have absolutely no luck and no hope. They typically need to settle for even worse or go abroad to poorer nations to find partners. At least the "leftover women" in China actually
can settle without much adjustment in expectations unlike the lower end of the male spectrum.
I've noticed the upper end, even mid to upper for males in China are fortuitously blessed. Both in the sense that they can date pretty wide age gaps (younger) and that they often are lucky enough to get very attractive females. The only condition is family status is reasonably decent and they make money. That cannot be emphasised enough. Obviously this is personal observation and it is my conjecture. Exceptions don't take away from general trends.
I've personally had plenty of white western women complain to me about treatment they receive in the west. Same with one Indian woman about Indian society. The only group that doesn't seem to complain about treatment are middle eastern women. Chinese women I know don't complain about Chinese society and women's treatment and place. Of course I'm sure there are many that do... usually all of them would be westernised Chinese women who were born and/or grew up in the west. Maybe the one you know laments about the whole "leftover women" issue and due to favourable overall circumstances, is aiming very high and failing to secure a high value male that she is satisfied with. Chinese male on the higher end of the spectrum are absolutely spoiled for choice. Looks, wealth, status/connection/career. Just need two and the women basically chase you. I know plenty of average to below average looking guys who have the latter "achievements" and have a string of attractive girlfriends month after month.
Another aspect is prostitution which is unfortunately/fortunately actually easily accessible in China. Married and single friends who frequent that lifestyle
insist it is simply impossible to go without. So men have plenty of options for the more primal needs. Companionship and genuine relationships require a bit more finesse.
Basically the lower half or so are devastated and their loss is the gain of the upper half for men. Women have more choice than they believe unless they're toward the lower end in terms of looks and in that case, it's also difficult but not as bad as a male without any of those three "qualities".
The situation is much worse for Japanese women... and I'd say slightly worse off for Taiwanese ones too simply because their societies suffer from similar cultural "problematic" attitudes but with much more stringent gender roles and conservative values than mainland women currently do ... and even since the cultural revolution.
