there should be more than sufficient time for the Indian Air Force to count them.
No need for them to count. They now exactly how many returned. They stay silent because they know if they acknowledge their losses, their heads will roll. Perhaps even literally.
"If only we had Rafale(...)" is an actual quote by Modi. The highest political office is in danger if they acknowledge Rafale loss. Their opposition is going to have a field day with it, exposing Modi for what he is. An incompetent ruler who can't fix the Indian military bureaucracy.
They fumbled 3 major projects which could've turned the tide for them. Tejas, MMRCA and FGFA. The last two happened under Modi's tenure. He might not recover from this and that's one of the reasons for him to stay silent and to escalate.