I live in both systems and I much much prefer the western version, thank you very much.
I was like you before, loved the Chinese government for what they have accomplished. After I lived in China for a few years, I got sick of the censorship, the inequality, the injustice and all the extra power and privileges the mandarins have. If you have the chance, go live there for a few years. I'll stop at that since it's off topic
Back to the Chinese forces sacrifices. Who cares what other people think? I'm a Canadian and Canadians made huge sacrifices in both world wars, yet do you hear that in the American media? At least the Canadians remember their sacrifices and honour them from time to time.
The Chinese forces was poorly trained, poorly equipped and often have to face overwhelming firepower, yet they stood their ground and fought, in many instances to the last man, knowing well ahead of time that will be the result. They traded many times of the casualties for space and time and they stopped the Japanese from taking over the entire country. If you read some of the historical books, you'll find that entire battalion or regiment sacrificed themselves so others can achieve their objectives, majors, colonels and in some cases generals stayed with their troops and died along with them. Many of them have very little training, yet they stood their ground when being pounded by artilleries/aircrafts and being charged by tanks and charged the enemy positions when commanded. Their valours are without question.
All the time I spent in China recently, I hardly see anything that commemorates their braveries and sacrifices. The only thing I came across is the restored statue in West Lake (西湖) commemorated the battle for Shanghai. I don't see students in school being taught about them. Their accomplishments are like never existed. Hell, the Canadian aren't exactly nationalistics, but I see more commemorations and celebrations of the WWI/WWII soldiers than in China (which is none). That's really pathetic and not right.