Nobody has experience fighting a hot war at the scale of a China-US conflict, the scale of industrial output China can mobilize for example has never existed in human history before.The whole war experience thing doesn't even work with China lately.
How much experience did late Qing have? They had loads of experience in fighting yet they got their asses kicked by everyone. Japan kicking their ass was particularly humiliating because what experience did Japan have outside its civil wars?
How much experience did the Communists have compared to the KMT? I mean the KMT went through warlords and fighting Imperial Japan in its prime. So you figured the KMT would have learnt something and put bets on them (even Stalin did). Yet they somehow got their asses beat by communists in record time.
How much experience did the communist have when fighting America and the UN who were only a few years removed from WW2 and had the latest technology? Still didn't stop America getting kicked out of North Korea.
I remember a saying that a smart man learns not from his own mistakes but others.
Given this, the side that falsely believe they have experience is at a disadvantage to the side that knows it does not.
As America's own Mark Twain puts it: "It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so."