The F-4 Phantom II was the heavy interceptor and multirole air superiority/attack aircraft of its era. The sources I can find online place the empty weight of USN F-4B/J variants in the range of 12,700-13,500kg, somewhat less than today's "medium" F/A-18E/F Super Hornet at 13,700-14,500kg. Super Hornet is heavier despite the Phantom's two J-79 engines weighing 1300kg(!) more than Super Hornet's two F414s. If the F-4 Phantom II were re-engined with F414, this "heavy" aircraft would weigh 11,400-12,200kg empty. Incorporate the half-century of materials and manufacturing advancements that Super Hornet benefits from and one could undoubtedly reduce the weight of a notional reborn Phantom by a further several hundred kilograms.
The F-14 is indeed an outlier. But that outlier should not distract from the clear record of carrier-based aircraft becoming heavier and heavier over time. The "light" carrier-based aircraft of the past have disappeared while the "medium" aircraft of today are the heavyweight aircraft of yesteryear. I don't know if USN's NGAD program will deliver an aircraft of equal or even greater weight than the F-14, but it is very likely to come in well above the 15,700kg of F-35C. Boeing's own 2009 NGAD concept had a notional empty weight of 18,000kg.
As such I think it is entirely reasonable to question the wisdom of PLAN investing in J-35 as the centerpiece of its future carrier air wing. My own view is that I think it makes sense for PLAN to take this relatively modest, low-risk approach to delivering a modern, VLO carrier-based combat aircraft and that such an aircraft, paired with upgraded J-15, will suffice in the medium-term, but that it will ultimately need to be augmented by a probably larger, higher-performance platform to debut by the late 2030s.