Google, Amazon, FB pay a lot more than $100k. Hiring bonuses often involve stock options too (very common these days). $100k at FANG is considered low.
Even finance folks working for mid tier banks such as Bank of America or J.P Morgan, often get paid around low six figures doing data analytics or project management. Pretty easy for a married couple to make $200k annual.
Go to Wilmington, Delaware; a third tier city, your starting salary for Data Analytics at J.P. Morgan is around $85-100k.
It’s not that hard for Asian immigrants with college level education.
I would say that depends very much on where you got your college level education. One of the Ivy Leagues? Sure, but then with the Asian quota at those schools, if you got in there, you're one of the lucky/elite few.
If you went to some second rate college or *gasp* community college? Whole other story.
I mean it's pretty telling that you dismiss BOA or JP Morgan jobs as "mid-tier". If you get a job as an analyst in one of those companies, whatever city you live in, you're pretty much set for life. Well, assuming you have the mental fortitude to endure the rat race.
Many people do have aspirations other than landing a job at a big corp and work until you're retired. Yeah, I get it that Asian immigrant parents groom their kids for that lofty aspiration, but people have all sorts of different dreams. Sometimes, even, people who do have that aspiration fall in love with someone who doesn't. Your idea of a couple both earning 100k annual salary is pretty uncommon.
(I don't know if it was just me, but when I was young, I found girls from a similar background to myself (child of first generation immigrant Asian parents) to be pretty boring.)