LOL. "Soft power" definition is literally getting the approval of other people. So having "Soft Power" is bad for China and Chinese people by your logic?? Being proud of your country is good as well. These two things can and do coexist.
I don’t think there’s need to argue between ourselves, I feel the true situation is somewhat between the 2 ends of the argument and I do agree with some of what fix_6ix9nine has said. China has a huge lack of soft power at least in the west, and its media finds it very difficult to find international audiences. It’s needs to work on this aspect but it’s very hard since it is not a part of the original western powers and it’s an uphill battle that may not be worth while right now. On the other hand, if China gets much stronger technologically, and they become somewhat self sufficient, they rely less on soft power. I felt that China has sooo many issues to deal with right now, they don’t have the energy to focus on soft power right now, just trying to continue to grow and become technologically self sufficient