I see we differ in two main ways:
1) you see oversea Chinese as serving local masters. I see it as neo-colonialism. In the US Asians take a lot of the good jobs. I think their political influence will grow over time as money buys power. I think PRC is smart to try to maintain good relationship but generally treat foreign citizens as foreign citizens.
No, I don't see things that simply. I understand that often, one will and should go overseas to learn and develop. During that time, one will inevitably benefit the country s/he is working in. I believe that sometimes, a person won't make it and will end up doing work in a field that is simply not important to the global competition such as hospitality or real estate, etc... In that case, s/he can simply enjoy life. However, if one does eventually become a talent in a contended area, I feel one should always remember one's roots and return to home to serve with what one has learned. I have no ill will towards the average Chinese American going about their day; the ones that digust me are the ones who have much to offer but offer it to an enemy nation of China. I feel that this person has developed valor but failed to develop honor and I expect a high-achieving person to develop both concurrently.
2) I am much more, if not extremely, careful not letting my patriotism and nationalism turn inward. I am glad you agree a united china is unstoppable. But how will China achieve its unity? I can't imagine liberally handing out harsh labels like disgrace, traitor will bring people together. From the 50s to the end of cultural revolution, countless Chinese people were labelled traitors, anti-revolutionaries, rightist and suffered greatly, with many killed.
I don't know any falun gong (and avoid them). But I know Hongkongers that would consider themselves in the pro-democracy camp (but certainly not black terror) and Taiwanese that are pro-independence (majority of Taiwanese are now pro-independence). and yes I still treat them as friends and am kind to them because kinship takes priority over politics. In today's PRC, which I am a proud citizen of, only the state has the power to hand out judgment and punishment according to the law on things like treason and separatism. Until any of my friends from Hongkong and Taiwan are convicted of such crimes, I will treat them as friends (But certainly will continue to articulate PRC's perspective in a friendly and respectful manner). They are respectful to me as well and I think my kind and moderate views improved their image of PRC although they continue to be surprised by my strong support for the CCP and particularly Xi. Interestingly the one Chinese that was really rude to me was a PRC->US citizen/trump supporter. Strong judgment of me with some pretty harsh words simply because I praised the CCP for what they objectively did well.
I cannot do it because I cannot pretend to be someone's friend when I am in disgust. I am a straight forward person and would fail miserably as a spy or counter-intelligence agent. Unfortunately, I feel that the only way to unite China is for China to defeat the US with what it has, and then unite the traitors by force. I don't think there is hope to win them over with kindness and win with them on the team. Have you ever converted someone with your kindness before? Bless you if you have but if not, then perhaps it is simply being kind to the enemy because you shy away from conflict? It wouldn't be rare to have that trait.
In my life, I have converted one Hong Kong girl... by dating her when I didn't know she was anti-CCP and then debating her down with facts, Googling, and reason before she started calling the rioters cockroaches too.
Any observers of US politics are seeing the political divide is becoming "struggle between enemies" rather than "amicable differences within the people". You see strong words like "traitor" used more and more often among Americans themselves for political differences. I just want to remind my fellow Chinese, when we laugh at them, we should reflect and try not to do that ourselves.
Yes, but in the US, the democrats and republicans at least share the common goal of strengthening America. The goal of these traitors is to help the US defeat China. There is a fundamental irreconcilable difference.