I always end up having similar views to Tom Fowdy

I think the same about Taiwan too. The problem here is Taiwan itself and its hostility against China. In addition to that Taiwan made itself a huge liability to China and it is actively hurting China's foreign relations. We talk about 1996 here but China's power is not the only difference here. Taiwan of 2022 is, by all means, an adversary to China. It went as far as funding China hawks, lobbying for anti-China policies in the US and supporting riots against Chinese people in the Solomon Islands. The current crisis is not only between the USA and China. This is why I think the use of force against Taiwan is possible. And Pelosi's visit is a perfect opportunity to give a reality check to Taiwanese and reverse 6 years of salami slicing in a matter of days.
The public discourse in Taiwan on China is highly divisive. There are supporters of China, and there are fervent secessionist elements. Taiwan has a non-functional democracy in the sense that it is non-inclusive - it is essentially a winner-take-all democracy that does not attempt to incorporate the viewpoints of the losers. This has fostered a dissatisfied and ideological independence movement under President Ma, and in the long-run will lead to further social divisions as a result of the incumbent Tsai. What you are seeing results from the fact that the pro-secessionist element is in power, and therefore are doing everything possible to maximise their chances of achieving their ideological goal of independence.
But the current tension does not have to remain that way. Indeed, even under the previous administration Ma, cross-strait relations were very cordial, or even friendly at times, with both Taipei and Beijing coordinating informally on issues such as Diaoyu and SCS. So, while I agree Taiwan is currently a liability, I disagree that Taiwan so long as it has autonomy will necessarily remain adversarial to China. The pendulum in Taiwan can swing very quickly, for reasons I have mentioned. The problem here is the external influence in that swing.
The biggest problem and culprit in the scene is the foreign backers of the DPP - namely the United States. China should be directing its dissatisfaction and anger towards its real adversary. The US will back the status-quo elements in Taiwan when it suits them - for example during the so-called War on Terror. The US needed China's acquiescence back then, and therefore needed to bring the renegade President Chen to heel. Chen was not supposed to have won the 2000 election had it not been for the internal fracture within the KMT, and even after his victory he lacked the majority to govern properly. Now, the incentive for the US to maintain the status quo has decreased sharply, and the sense of urgency to stop China's rise has taken priority. This led the US to step up its overt and covert support for DPP.
I still believe as Chinese power continues to grow relative to the US, a peaceful resolution is within reach. This will require more time, but it is time that China has.
Among the Taiwanese independence movement, there is a sobering perception that time is running out. They are aware that the military balance is shifting quickly and irrevocably in China's favour with every passing year, not just vis-à-vis Taiwan, but also vis-à-vis the US.
This means there is a real urgency for the independence movement to provoke a conflict in the next couple of years, before the 'window of opportunity' (that exists in their mind) for Taiwan and its Western backers to win closes entirely. While war is of course terrible, they think if Taiwan needs to fight one to achieve independence, it needs to be now. I actually think this is one observation the Chinese mainlanders can agree with the Taiwanese secessionists on - that the latter's dream is on a clock, and one that is fast approaching 12. In a few years, it is very likely the secessionists will have to submit to the reality that the 'window of opportunity' has closed, and I think many would give up and/or emigrate to Western countries. When this happens, Taiwan would have no recourse but to either initiate negotiations for a peaceful resolution, or at least act on the basis that its autonomy is a privilege granted by Beijing, not a right. This is particularly true if the US were to be distracted by some other issues, either internal or in other parts of the world, like Eastern Europe. On balance, it is too early to convince ourselves that China absolutely must use brute force, at least not yet! We should continue to see wisdom in Beijing's view that it strives to achieve peaceful unification, with the use of force only as a last resort.