The likes of Malaysia and South Korea is disrepecting China but not Russia. Because the Chinese is too soft, period. America and Russia are not liked by anymean but people respect them coz they causing actual damage. You can see Russia despite all domestic problems are still feared around the world. America also. The Chinese should look at this war and learn how to gain respect. Respect in international stage is just fear. The Japanese fear the American so much that turned to voluntary lapdogs.
It's not really comparable at all, the scales, expectations and stakes are completely different.
You're basically comparing who is more openly feared? An infamous mafia leader, or an entrepreneur that owns most of a country's MIC and consumer industry?
China at any point of the time is expected to be way more stable than Russia. They have a task to shape and hold the whole international order, which requires some level of impartiality as well as hearing out "lesser" countries instead of using brute force. Russia has no such responsibilities, theyre a bloc component and not a bloc leader.
The size of economy, ability to cast influence and so on shows the vast level of difference between China and Russia. People trust Chinese brands and queue in line to get Chinese tech everywhere, but the same can't happen for Russia. However, the same also doesn't need to happen for Russia in order for Moscow to have a good ending.
Regarding Japan and US relationship, Japan is literally occupied as is most of the EU. There is nothing voluntary. When US faces setback and can't hold onto them, you will see their true faces, like how you saw the faces of the Soviet SSRs once the union fell. Military occupation doesn't beget true loyalty.