You concentrate on the differences between the F-35 and the J-31, but I concentrate on the similarities. If you compare the two in terms of silhouettes, they're actually quite similar. Both have swept-back tailfins, both use horizontal stabilizers, etc...
The disadvantage of the J-31 is primarily in its lack of IR sensors. Its advantage lies in its lighter construction and presumably better maneuverability, having a wing area 25% larger than the F-35, and being slated to TVC, which the F-35 will never have.
The J-20 is a good match for the F-35, stealth vs stronger radar, maneuverability versus subsystems, but the J-31 vs the F-35 leaves the J-31 pilot maneuverable, but blind. The J-20 can expect to jam the F-35's radar based simply off its larger radar aperture, but if the J-31 has an advantage, it's relatively small and could turn into a disadvantage due to the difference in technology levels.
That said, don't behave like a snowflake. There's way too many similarities between the F-35 and J-31, but I think Bill Sweetman did praise the latter by saying it's a "fixed" F-35.