@Brumby
I'm aware that there's considerable complexity beyond simply the G-rating of an aircraft.
The thing is, though, with the ITR, the ITR seems to be used as a last-ditch effort to dodge missiles. If you look at the F-35, for instance, the designers did not overly prioritize STR for dogfights, but they emphasized ITR.
Why is that? With highly agile missiles, STR isn't going to allow you to dodge a missile, as others have said, defeating the seeker head is more useful. However, ITR can potentially allow you to reach an acceleration that a missile can't follow, and while you can't use 11G ITR repeatedly, it does present a more difficult to hit opponent than a conventional 9G aircraft. Of course, in the case of the Rafale, the 11G ITR is emergency ITR; and well, if the Rafale has emergency 11G ITR, what other aircraft have classified 11G ITR?
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The other thing to point out is that at least in the Russian case, they claim to have changed flight suits or flight training to allow pilots to survive / sustain short 11G events, and that IIRC, humans can survive 39G short-term acceleration on the vertical.
I've never said that the Rafale or Su-57 is capable of SUSTAINED 11G, and sustained 11G would be quite useless, as it would quickly incapacitate or kill the pilot. But instantaneous, for a quick jink of 1-2 missiles? Whole other story.
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On the IRST, one common feature in consumer cameras these days is a type of pixel binning or synthetic aperture, where multiple shots are analyzed by signal processing to create a higher resolution image. It's fairly reasonable to suspect that quasi-modern IRST as on the Indian Rafales will have such features to increase sensitivity.
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So I'm just pointing out the capabilities of the Rafale. Quite likely, as you've said, factors like force integration, C4I, and training on both sides will outweigh the pure technological capabilities of the Rafale, especially since it comes in small numbers and is BVR-bait for any sufficiently maneuverable long-ranged missile due to its non-stealth / LO nature.
On the other hand, it has IRST of some capability that can likely allow it to detect the J-20 at ranges further than the simple 5-20km implied by the capabilities of the Rafale's radar and the probable J-20 RCS profile, especially if the J-20 makes the mistake of increasing speed to increase its IR profile.
And the Meteor offsets the PL-15 to an extent; the current Meteor is more jammable compared to the PL-15, given its lack of AESA, but when you compare the probable effective range on the Meteor (variable thrust ramjet) vs the probable effective range on the PL-15 (dual-pulse rocket), it begins to resemble a toss-up.