In reality, it will probably be the other way around in terms of numbers.
When you are defending, especially so against stealth opponents, you cannot deploy and redeploy your own forces according to the disposition and movement of the enemy forces, since you won't be able to detect the enemy forces at far enough ranges to know where they will strike until the last moment.
You will need to balance the number of fighters you have available against the number of assets you have that need to be protected. So, just how many F35s can the USAF afford to assign as escorts for each AWACS and tanker? Unless we are talking about a war tomorrow, with just the J20 prototypes being rushed into service, I really cannot see any scenario where the USAF can routinely field an escort of F35s 3-4 times the size of the largest J20 strike package the PLAAF can easily pull together for each and every AWACS or tanker.
That is why it is so important to seize the initiative and go on the offensive. If you are forced into adopting a defensive posture and tactic against an enemy using 5th gens, you have as good as lost half the battle before a single shot has been fired.