Ultimately, they will count for a lot...once installed.
You didn't answer my point about the different sensors and other electronic systems used. For example, SAMPSON can only be found on the Daring-class.
totoro makes a good point about the actual anti-missile capabilities of the ships, in terms of things like intercept performance, ability to track and engage incoming targets, etc. After all, a vessel could be packed with the same number of Sea-Sparrows and ESSM, but the end result would be quite different.
Sometimes you can't rank ships by simple numbers, as it's so easy to leave factors out. Maybe you should contact Richard Beedall from Navy Matters and ask him if he can help you out.
Also, rather than try to rank classes simply by numbers, etc you could use the details as an informative comparison and then have an "overall view" taking into account all those things you can't really get down on a table, maybe with a "conclusion"/explanation for your ranking.
Room for growth in a particular weapons or systems area will not help the Daring if it has to go into harms way needing those particular systems before it has those systems installed.
I think this is another area where your table goes wrong. The Daring-class was not designed to be a "multi-role vessel", nor operate by itself in hostile areas - it's for AAW. If used in a war scenario, it would either be guarding a taskforce or operating with one of our frigates, ships that have excellent anti-submarine and anti-shipping systems.
There's also things like the fact Daring is already equipped to receive Harpoon. All it would need is a short amount of time to fit it, because all the hard-work has been done with the electronics, etc installed.
Another question, why does ASM get more points than separate ASM? Seems to overly favour the US ships on that count for no real reason.
The training curve may well drop off...but it does not, IMHO, go to zero or anywhere near it. Otherwise, after a few years, navies would stop training...but they do not.
No, they keep training to keep the level of experience/expertise they have. After all, people retire, new people join, etc. So you need to keep the training going to even stay where you are - there's no reason to believe things keep going up and up. I think they would plateau off after a while.