What the fuck did I just read?
You gotta stop pinning blame on others for your own failures - if you can't pick up, work on where you fall short instead of saying "floral suit did not get me laid = cultural failure". I get the feeling you could show up to an over 30's single women event with a suitcase full of cash and still not get laid. The dongbei floral suit guy could literally rock up to a liberal event wearing a red Trump hat and still pick up.
Your life sounds fucked up. My suggestion is to ditch all your 'friends' and start again, because you are who you surround yourself with.
All my friends are asian and they are all jacked, and married or in a long term relationship - there is not one person I know personally who is an incel with a bowlcut; as such, I am unafflicted with and cannot relate to a losers jealous rage; the only battle I have is how to become a better version of myself, and how I can better contribute to China's everlasting glory.
For the record, the Dongbei floral pattern dude falls exactly in the "XHS Chang" category. He has a whole channel full of videos where he goes to some random european country wearing his signature suit with closeups on all the simping girls he walks past.
I am getting tired of your rantings; but I'll say this: if you can't help yourself, no one can. If you're skinny and weak, go to the gym. If you lack confidence, just start doing what you enjoy doing, drop all the friends that drag you into doing stuff you don't like and find friends that share the same values and interests. Doing this will turn your life around.