I never said that the US isn't doing wrong. But this isn't a one sided affair. You say China has been relatively restrained.
Is building islands and military installations on the South China Sea restrained?
Is flying more sorties over Taiwan than any time in the last 30 years restrained?
Is the ongoing border fighting with India that is the worse in 30 years, and refusal to demarcate the LAC restrained?
Is setting up an ADIZ over the East China Sea restrained?
Is making up a new border claim against Bhutan which never existed before restrained?
Is abruptly passing a HK national security law which takes away the city's freedoms restrained?
Is threatening Australia with economic punishment if it doesn't do what China wants restrained?
Is locking up 1 million Uighurs, doing genocide by forced sterilization, and making them do slave labor with no contact with their families restrained?
Are all the arrests of lawyers, increased censorship of WeChat and Weibo, arrests of academics for speaking politically incorrect, and never ending purges restrained?
Is wolf warrior diplomacy of gloating over others' coronavirus sufferings or berating them for their response restrained?
You are going to tell me that none of this is happening, or it's all justified for some reason or another. But Western propaganda is not that good. If China was being restrained then it would not be in the bad position it is in, not only via the US but via most developed countries & most of its neighbors.
And what did this liberal 1980s generations achieve? Did they ever express their liberalism? How was it reflected in Chinese policies? The American people don't know which generations are liberal or conservative in China. All they can see is government policy. Since 2008, China has only become more hardline, nationalist, authoritarian and closed. It completely reversed direction from the 1980s and 1990s when it was opening up & reform.
The US never hid its expectations, fair or not. The US always openly said it expected China to gradually liberalize. You can go back to the speeches of Bill Clinton or Robert Zoellick from the 1990's and 2000's. When China liberalized and joined the international system, it became the most successful country in the world. It rose from a nation of peasant farmers to almost a middle income country in one generation. What I don't understand is why did it suddenly do a 180 degree reverse backward and is now trying to return to the days of Mao Zedong? If you are being successful, why turn around and go back to the old road where you were unsuccessful? There is no reason- it is complete stupidity out of the blue. It is as if a man who has just gotten a promotion, ideal career, ideal wife, ideal kids, one day suddenly decides to pick up a gun, point it at his own face, and pull the trigger. That is really what upsets me so. China sacrificed so many decades and so many lives for the lessons of the Deng Xiaoping era, when it finally seemed to be on the right path. But for no reason at all it is suddenly going to the wrong path again with no explanation. I don't get it. It's like Xi Jinping is some sort of CIA intelligence op out to damage China, and he somehow got elected General Secretary.
I won't reply to all your post because I don't have the time nor the patience. But, what part of China is just not being aggressive, just merely responding to aggression you don't get? If your neighbour started to say he wants to kill you, and then bought a tank and pointed it at your house, you won't do anything? Just stand still and wait for things to improve with someone that can't be reasoned with? Even you can't be that stupid