Is this acceptable in 2021?Please keep in mind that these kind of generalizations don't help the conversation in my honest opinion. In any case, if you are really interested in the subject at hand:
1. Whataboutism has no place in these forums. Two things can be bad at the same time.
2. What was acceptable with the tech and specifics of the 70's is certainly not acceptable now.
3. The 1979 Skylab debacle was not acceptable. It was a major incident with big ramifications that informed thereafter some of the tech and specifics I mention in 2.
4. Skylab was purposefully de-orbited but the then state of the art (with regards to material burn rates) resulted in a landfall miscalculation. 40+ years later, 2021-035B is reported as tumbling uncontrollably in space. And this is the second time for this specific variant.
Where is the modern choice for spaceX's upper stage?This is incorrect, it has a lot of choices. All modern upper stages have the ability to alter their orbit as part of the pacification process post-separation.
Why a Chinese rocket is a concern while a American rocket is not equally a concern? This is about your "whataboutism".