Of course, as you say, the human body can only sustain 9Gs, but when it comes to instantaneous turn rate the human body can survive a maximum of 45Gs, enough for an aircraft to outmaneuver a low-G missile and delegate the aircraft to drone control with the pilot blinded mid-term and having passed out.
Once someone looses consciousness from extreme G lock, there is no reliable way to know when, or even if, they will regain it. Might be a few seconds, or hours, or never. It's almost never a good idea to pull such extreme manoeuvres.
IMO, the problem with arguing that canards by themselves are enough is that the ideal canard fighter is the Rafale, with the canards coupled closely to the wing, and placed directly above the main wing.
That is an exceptionally contentious claim. Without meaning to engage in THAT infamous, never-ending debate, the facts speak for themselves, with half of the world's top fighter companies betting on close coupled canards, with the other half favours long coupled.
Take the near identical performances of the Typhoon vs Rafale as proof that there is no magical perfect canard layout, and how well a design works depends on how well all its design features are integrated and works together.
IMO, the apprehension about TVC technology is a Chinese version of "wasn't built here" syndrome. China, up until recently, was not a leader in TVC technology; that was the reserve of the Americans and the Russians. Both had experimented with canard fighters, but ditched them, seeing TVC as a better compromise in the name of drag and stealth, with the Russians having gone further, eventually developing a LEVCON. But now that China possesses TVC technology, will we see it fit to every Chinese fighter?
Actually, it's only the Russians who are super keen on TVC. The Europeans are showing little interest, the Americans only applied it to one operational fighter, despite extensive studies, and the Chinese remain largely uninterested despite the Russians making the technology available long ago.
Again, I think the key is general aerodynamic.
Everyone else was able to advance their own aerodynamics research and study to the point where they can achieve combat aircraft agility levels well in excess of human physical tolerances.
OTOH, when everyone else was making these important transitions from 3rd gen to 4th gen aerodynamics advancements, the then Soviets were kneecapped by the calamity of the collapse of the USSR and the long, messy aftermath.
Russian aerodynamics research effectively ground to a holt from the late 80s for well over a decade. They were stuck making incremental improvements to the Flanker design until the PAKFA, and even that could be uncharitably described as an extreme evolution of the baseline Flanker design as opposed to a clean slate new design.
That's why the Russians were turning so heavily to TVC - it's the cheapest, and only effective way they can evolve their baseline 3rd gen Flanker design to keep up with the new generation aerodynamics of canard deltas.
But given the inherently better agility of delta canards, TVC offers limited benefits to those designs because of human G limits.
The Americans went their own way with stealth over aerodynamics as the chief priority for the F22, and probably opted to use TVC for different reasons - stealth, and to give the conventional layout Raptor more of an edge over conventional 4th gens that prioritised agility above all else.
As I mentioned before, a J-20 with TVC is oh-so-close to the X-36 configuration
The purely experimental X planes were never meant to be operationally viable. They are one-trick ponies designed and built to test out one area of significant interest.
Just because an X-plane was so designed is no indication it's a good idea for your operational fighters to adopt the same overall design.
Moreover, the easiest way to experiment with tailfinless is to use canard-delta-tailfinless designs. The additional control surfaces, especially with the anhedral/dihedral set-up, allows the J-20 to regain control even if the TVC fails, making it much less risky to test-fly. It is an advantage the Chinese have that neither the Americans nor the Russians possess; the Russians are likely going to be strapped for funding in the coming years, and neither have the same extensive experience with canard fighters as China does, with its successful J-10 and J-20 programs.
That makes for an interesting case for China to maybe build their own tailless X plane based on the J20, but it's a far cry from a convincing argument that that would be the ideal lay out for future generation combat aircraft.
Hence, the advantage of the Chinese kitchen sink approach. The only thing they haven't tried is the canted tail of the 25DMU, and such an approach will increase drag and RCS. By holding everything else, though, they are in a position to integrate the best technologies and techniques the world has to offer and produce superior aircraft that no other state can rival.
Indeed, that has been one of the most striking, and best characteristics of Chinese aviation (and general technological) advancement in the last few decades - the Chinese does not care, or hold any biases towards the source of an idea or concept. The only thing they care about is whether it works and works for their needs. If it does, then they will take it and use it and make it their own.
Given the hunger of China for advanced tech of all sources, it's exceptionally out of character for them to be rejecting an open offer of technology they do not yet possess. As such, I think it is infinitely more likely that the Chinese made a calculated decision not to pursue Russian TVC tech, because they judged the tech itself to be of limited utility given the costs and performance penaltiesand what their baseline designs can already do, as opposed to because of some odd sense of national pride.
Even if, indeed especially if, they were making massive strides in secret TVC engine research that they have been able to keep totally under wraps, it would have made sense for them to take the Russians up on their offer of TVC engines, especially for the J20 flight test programme.
If they wanted to fit the J20s with TVC eventually, it would have been a no brainer to take the Russian TVC engines on offer and use them to conduct flight testing, rather than the non-TVC Russian engines they are using, if they ultimately wanted to use their own TVC engines on production aircraft.