First of all, you should really post your long-winded essay separately, not in response to my comment blended with your argument with other member, and miss my points almost entirely.
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I'm utterly confused by what you were trying to say.
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My main takeaway from your long and misfiring essay is that you don't really read what you're supposed to respond to and, in the strong urge to dump materials, you simply are barking on the wrong tree.
This is a great example of
narcissistic injury and the resulting
narcissistic rage. It also includes
projection and several other types of behavior that are characteristic of the
narcissistic spectrum. Your
entitlement and
exaggerated sense of self-importance is equal to your
insecurity and your
inability to control yourself when you feel angry.
When non-narcissistic people are confused by something that someone said "about them" they politely ask for clarification or simply ignore what caused the confusion. I do it all the time - especially the latter part. People are entitled to their opinions even if they're ignorant or wrong. How else would they learn? How else would
I learn?
If I see a need to clarify something I do it through private messages as to not turn general threads into a display of hostility and toxicity. I made an exception here for good reasons although I already know from experience that it won't matter in the end. The people who should take this to heart won't. Still principles are important. Without principles we're no better than animals.
It's completely irrational and immature to become agitated by something someone said on the internet.
It's obvious to me because I can control myself and have a healthy sense of self-worth, as well as what is actually important in life. When I read some of the responses here I feel pity. But I know that people who chose to behave this way do no deserve it. But because I can't do anything constructive I choose not to engage in destructive behavior.
You can always choose how you act. With or without dignity. With or without kindness. With or without widsom.
It is typical of narcissistic personality to display
entitlement by writing an aggressive incoherent rant attacking someone who "wronged" them with "improper" form of address or response. The incoherent rambling nature of the response is a typical trait, showing the narcissist's lack of restraint and impulsivity. The fact that they are angered bu such unimportant act shows their
insecurity and
entitlement.
It is typical of narcissistic personality to engage in
conflict for the sake of conflict rather than in conversation for the sake of mutual understanding and cooperation. Narcissists are incapable of peaceful co-existence with others unless it's in the bounds of artificial hierarchy that enhances their pathologically low self-esteem. They have to be higher than others, and definitely never to be shown as being lower in a hierarchy that exists in their minds.
It is typical of narcissistic personality to
devalue another user and their content because they are sub-consciously threatened by being shown to be "worse" or "wrong" in a para-social situation. Narcissists are sore losers. They can't lose so they don't play fair even when there's a chance to win.
It is typical of narcissistic personality to engage in
projection which is accusing someone of doing what you are doing to distract and deflect attention from the act - like you accusing me of not reading your comments when you literally repeat what I said in an attempt to make some kind of irrelevant point. It's a subconscious behavior so you don't even realize you're doing it.
Your entire post is just that.
Why I would respond to that instead of ignoring it?
After all I don't care who you are. I don't pay attention to you. You're not relevant and neither are your opinions. I don't even recognize your nick as one who predominantly engages in productive behavior in this community.
Well, sometimes a man must speak his conscience and being attacked is probably the best excuse or reason.
I "dumped the data" because I'm trying to give back to the community. I come here for photographs and information that others share and I don't want to be ungrateful. I don't have much to offer but I do what I can. I expect to move on in a month or two after I explored this forum, returning only occasionally to check the pulse on sources and news. In the meantime if someone bookmarks my profile they get a quick link to a handful of maps, tables and a few other posts that can be helpful. After all this is why I restrict myself to "long-winded essays" and post very little in general discussion. I consider it my duty to litter as little as possible in a public space.
First - do no evil. Second - do some good if you can.
I used your comment as a starting point to my response because it is not in any way wrong.
You would have to be a complete egomaniac to assume that you are my point of interest when in fact I just wanted a convenient link to a thread which switches focus on a regular basis. I wanted an "in" into the conversation. It's not my problem that you are as easily "triggered" as some tumblrina and can't separate yourself, your online profile and your opinions.
It's a mental illness and I explained what specific disorder it is.
And now I am writing this response because
narcissism is the main problem in online behaviour. This is why internet turns increasingly toxic. This is why websites die. This is why online communities devour themselves. Narcissism when not checked is like cancer. At some point you have a choice - either you engage the narcissistic drivel spouted by narcissists growing their tumor-like online egos... or you leave.
I was active on another forum for many years because it was an engaging and surprisingly healthy community. I'm not anymore, because the moderators being narcissistic themselves tolerated narcissism. That led to exodus of ordinary users who couldn't take the forum's steady descent until it became one long exchange of posts that are identical to yours weig_2000. Now the forum reads like one of the political threads here. Obviously you won't see the problem but that's because you are the problem.
The reason why vampires in stories can't see their reflection in the mirror is because vampirism is a metaphor for narcissism. If you show them their true reflection they don't see it and if you show them a religious symbol (a metaphor of good principles) they become angry and aggressive. You can't convert a vampire. You can only kill it. Ancient wisdom in story form.
And finally I would seriously question
why anyone would like such display of pathological behaviour. Why do you think it is worth of approval? Do you see commonalities with yourselves? If so, perhaps it's a good reason to think about your life.
If seeing a problem makes you click "like"... you don't see the problem as a problem.
The death knell of any community always begins when the people in charge of order start taking sides and stop being able to take responsibility and criticism for their own actions. When you start to feel sympathy for posts like that one, you're not far from a slippery slope that ends only one way. Slippery slope always leads to the bottom.
Remember:
When life grants you opportunity to make something good, don't make it about yourself.
You're not important. The effects that this good act has on others is the only thing that truly matters.
Leave to posterity only what you would like to be left to you. Leave only the best of you.
And with that I will move on to real life because I have a busy couple of days ahead of me. So I will excuse myself as to not foment further unrest and in the meantime y'all take care.
