manqiangrexue
Brigadier
People say raising kids is exhausting but I think it's only as exhausting as you let it be. Coddling kids, tending to thier cries, it's all a waste of time. I have a daughter who acts like an absolute ass when I'm not around. Her mother and grandparents can't handle her when she cries. But when she sees me, I give one warning, "Don't cry and don't shout," and she pipes right down because I'm the only one who has punished her by locking her in a room and ignoring her for a long time before. Baby cries rattle people's hearts but do absolutely nothing to me; I will happily hear my sons cry so hard they can't breath for half a minute during their self-calming training. This shows exactly that kids will only be as much trouble as you let them be. To me, every kid is just some food and diaper changes, easy peezy. They learn by quietly watching you. Cause more trouble than that, get locked up to show you what happens to entitled little shits.I suspect you are underestimating how utterly exhausting and all-consuming raising children is, because you do not have kids yourself.
And yes, having kids is really exhausting. And there's not much economies of scale with raising multiple kids.
Also you can't trick people into raising 3 or 4 all at once. People will have 1 or 2, and say this is enough, we can't handle more regardless of the subsidy, and stop.
Yet the only way to raise TFR to 2 is for people to have 3 or 4, because for every woman who doesn't have children, you need another one to have 4 or two to have 3. And it's way way easier to have no kids than to have 3 or 4 kids.
I don't think enough people will bite the bullet and have 3-4 kids for any sort of conceivably realistic subsidy to cancel out the increasing number of people who have no kids or only have 1 kid.
Also, this isn't taking into account what kind of kids would be produced by parents who are motivated by subsidies to have kids, and whether those kids would be a net positive.
AGI/amortality is the only realistic way out. (They are interchangable since the former would lead to the latter). Otherwise we'll go extinct like Calhoun's rats. I personally think this is the Great Filter. We will know in about 10-20 years whether humanity has made it out - potentially sooner depending on how spicy the AGI race between the US and China gets.
If Chinese people did this, the TFR would go up. But instead, Chinese people are the biggest baby coddlers in the world; when an ABC friend of mine said that she's doing sleep training with her baby and letting him cry it out at night, she got scolded by Chinese parents telling her that babies only need you so much for the first few precious years of their lives so how could she take that away from them just because you're too selfish to wake up in the middle of the night? That's when I realized that Chinese people don't do sleep training; they just let the baby torture them until it becomes a teenager!! LOL I'm like, her kid is gonna stuff your little snowflakes in lockers when they meet in high school if you keep raising them like wusses.
Israel's useful scientific population also has a low TFR. The Jews with the high TFR are the ones that contribute nothing to the economy but take tax money to do bible studies all day. If you look at ghettos in the US, a lot of those people have lots of kids. There is so far no high tech population (with bimodal societies counting as separate and not 1 population) with a high TFR.What lessons can be learned from Israel's TFR? Obviously there are many aspects of Israel that does not and will never apply to China, but with a TFR of 2.9 which is the highest for a developed nation, perhaps there are a few good takeaways.
I think China has done too good a job at poverty eradication for this but one potential is to have a bimodal country where Chinese people in the countryside have 4, 5, 6, whatever, 9 babies like they did in my grandmother's days. Then, some of them stay in the countryside and keep that tradition while some get educated, go to the city, contribute to China's STEM, but slowly die out in 1-3 generations by having 0-1 babies each woman and just get replaced by the next wave of migrants from the countryside.
I think it would be a great experiment to see if we can create a society where parenting is limited or eliminated. The Spartans did some of this with the agoge where parents only raise a child to age 8 before he becomes a member of the state and is trained to first be a survivalist and then to be a soldier. Spartans are the exact opposite of the coddled and entitled shit babies that plague modern society and they have an excellent sense of community. In this model, the most critical need is for the creation of the artificial womb. Once this is done, 18-21 year olds may go to have their sperm/eggs extracted. The government takes these and creates embryos to be born out of artificial wombs. The babies are raised in communities and go through basic education (with patriotic education of course) with stress-free testing to see where each one is most talented, where they will go through specialized education in that direction. Babies raised like this will live very disciplined and structured lives. Many aspects indicate they could be stronger than traditionally-raised babies because their lives are essentially training regiments optimized by science rather than the frantic and irrational emotions of parents who love them but often don't know what to do. But will they lack something human because they never experienced parental love? I think maybe not because looking orphanages, the children who come out of there are often normal or better-mannered than normal with the most troublesome and angry ones usually inspired by their hatred for drawing the short stick and having less than most kids with parents, which is a factor that will not exist in this model. In other words, traditional parenting is likely overrated and superfluous.