Infatuation with foreign media (e.g. Hollywood, Korean dramas), and internalization of Western standards (e.g. Western fashion, measures of success, ways of development) also play into this. The thing about Indians and Muslims is that they historically didn't consume that much Western media (under-development, Bollywood, religious restrictions) and their societies also don't play by Western standards, while with East Asians, there truly was an attempt to "Westernize," even in China.
When your definition of modernization is defined by catching up to the West, you're going to end up internalizing their standards. So as a consequence you see in the 80s and 90s, East Asian women adopt Western fashion trends and style their hair in curls to look more Western, and in the 00s and 10s, decorate themselves with Western luxury items, get eye jobs and nose jobs to look more like white people, etc. Preferring white men is just another facet of the same West worship that's been a double edge sword - on one hand, it allowed East Asia to develop much faster than the rest of the world; but on the other hand, it's left a deep mark of internalized Western standards.